Change in your life is a daily occurrence, but those changes are so small that you hardly notice although they are part of your personal growth.

During life it will happen to all of us that bigger changes unexpectedly fall on our heads.

You didn’t seek this change and it feels like a disaster, you get desperate, you feel fear, you absolutely want to fight the change and you get angry when that is not possible.

The change you didn’t have any influence on stays, and you can’t do anything about it.

You have lost control of what goes on in your life and that more than anything depresses you.

So even things that were good before and were not affected by the change now make you feel unsatisfied and angry.

These days most people have been subjected to economic change and for many people it dominates their life outlook and they find it difficult and hard to embrace the change in life that alone an economic downturn makes.

Downsizing the private economy, personal financial reconstruction, maybe even loss of job is part of change in your life and requires all of your positive abilities and adaptability.

Without adapting to economic problems bigger problems in relationship and in personal life will follow. So open your mail even if it is bills you have difficulties paying.

Handling change is imperative for doing well on the job, for an income, for having good relationships, for being a good parent, for having a great life continuously.

Use These Seven Tips For Accepting And Embracing The Changes in Your Life

1:  Be aware that the best things in life happen when unexpected changes arrive. Change not only forces you but gives you the chance to reevaluate your life and get your priorities right.  So ask yourself which important parts of your life you have neglected up till now on your priority list and do something about it.

2: Then find all the positive things there is to say about the change in your life and only for your life, not somebody else’s.

3:  If there is something you don’t understand about a change on the job, ask, get answers and don’t be afraid to have to learn something new.  With a positive attitude change can be fun and extremely giving.

4:  Revise your personal budget in details.  Doing this can save you a lot of troubles and lack of understanding from your family and get your economy faster on track again.

5:  Don’t let your worries spoil your family life, encourage the necessary change in habits including your own, set some limits and stick to them.

6:  Find a lot of “free” fun stuff to do.  Go on the Internet and find local events you somehow can join for free, take a walk on the beach, or browse around in the city center, go to free concerts, visit museums and select carefully what you watch on TV.  See series and films that make you in a good mood, feel relaxed and optimistic.  Don’t spend you time on the daily bad news, horror and series that make you feel scared or depressed.

7:  Engage with your changing surroundings instead of raging against them.  Work actively and positively with the changes.

Finally what I personally do is to spend five minutes every morning envisioning all the positive things I want to do this day, the things that are in my control.  Imagine yourself kicking out any negative thought that might enter your mind.

With these seven steps you can be the daily inspiration for your own family and others for accepting and embracing change in your life.

Pia Balling

You can hardly ever smile and if you do, you feel guilty about it. Your subconsciousness automatically goes into action and asks you: “How can you smile when…?”

All the “could have, should have and would have” come out as a result of the times we felt punished for something during childhood. Whether we remember the situations correct or not, they stay in our subconsciousness and make us feel, even as grown-ups, that if we don’t do this or that the right way we will be punished, we will not be loved and not accepted.

Of course this comes up when you want it the least, when it is especially important to you that things turn out well. Somehow at this moment you feel overwhelmed by that unnecessary feeling of fear and guilt that pushes it’s way forward and spoils everything for you.

It happens at special moments with your partner, when you are on that first hopeful and exiting date, at family gatherings, the yearly outing with your kids and also at the time at work when you really need to be up on your toes.

You have become a total downer for yourself and every body around you and a change of mindset is necessary.

So you wonder why all this happens to you and where that feeling of guilt comes from and not the least what you can do about getting to live your life without guilt.

Let go of negativity rooted in the past.

Realize that the childhood feeling of being scared and afraid without you noticing it comes forward and helps you think: “Oh, I better feel guilty about this because I am not supposed to do things like this.”

This will easily be followed by thoughts like: ” I don’t deserve to be happy because I am so bad.” It doesn’t matter whether you are older or younger; it is still the same feeling.

Think about that when you live with the past as your daily partner, you miss out on the greatness of living in the present.

Here are four tools to help you get rid of your unnecessary guilt feeling.

1: No matter what you recurring feel guilty about, think how unnecessary this feeling is and that the cause is part of your life history and not part of your life NOW.

2: Ask yourself:

a) In which way does this guilt feeling serve me?

b) In which way does this guilt feeling harm me?

3: Take a notebook and a pen and write down all the events, actions, thoughts that you feel are giving you guilt feelings and hindering you now. Everything from the smallest to the biggest and do not be surprised if memories of events you have not thought about for many years come up. It is hard to go through all those things that have pained you for many years and you might want to talk to somebody you trust. Maybe you feel t necessary to apologize to somebody, want forgiveness and if so here is your chance to do it now. Do not hold back talking about these things, face them, learn from them, take due responsibility and then send everything away to that corner of your memory and subconscious mind where it stays enclosed by you.

The more of your past you deal with, the more space you get for memories of positive events and daily positive thoughts. Remember that you are human and humans are not perfect.

4: Get your notebook and a pen and make a list of all the good things you have done when you were younger and also lately. Try to remember everything.

It is time to choose something different.

Make an extensive list of all the things you are grateful for, what sets you in a good mood, what makes you smile and feel happy.

Write the last list every day for a month and you will soon see, how the world around you changes.

You know why?

The reason is that YOU change your attitude and become more and more positive.

Concentrate and focus on the things that serve you now. Throw away your guilt feeling that doesn’t serve you, embrace your good memories and let them support you positively in your daily life.

Pia Balling

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This Valentine’s Day is not about you; it is about love, you and your partner.
That is Valentine’s Day.

You might say: “But for me every day is about my partner in life. If my partner is happy I am happy.”
Happiness comes easy if you think this way because then love and happiness is your choice and your life is not only about you but also about “us”.
But if you feel obliged, your soul is not really there, the situation is different and your relationship needs a lot of attention. Valentine’s Day is as good as any day to start a check on your feelings, what you give and what comes back.

Love is all about balancing, also on Valentine’s Day

Nobody says love is supposed to be easy. But it is there and it is the salt of life.
Just forget this day has become another shopping encouragement, a kind of social obligation and use it the way you feel it should be: A celebration of the love you feel, may it be to your partner in life, family or friends or a cause that has embraced your heart.
Have a happy Valentine’s Day.

Pia Balling

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You wake up and feel like staying in bed but know getting up is necessary for your income, also getting to the job you might even hate every day.

You make grimaces and your brain is constantly finding plausible excuses to stay at home.  Getting through this day just like all the previous is a pain.  So you start out the day with all the negative feelings and thoughts that automatically come to your mind.  The result is that almost everything about this day stinks.

I ask why?

Why is it that you don’t know how to be happy?

There must be a reason.

Where does that reason come from?

Oh it is the weather, you got up too early, you have a long drive to work and everybody around you don’t know how to drive, your coworkers do not understand you and your boss is a total idiot.

Now where do YOU come in?

Or are you the perfectly perfect person?

Or could it be that you actually are like every other person, who all have his or her moments of imperfection?

Maybe every day actually offers very good possibilities to find out how to be happy but you don’t see this because you let your mind start the day wrong footed.

There are ways to make yourself feel that even bad weather is good for something that taking up the daily challenge at work makes you feel maybe even a little happy and you suddenly see ways to acknowledge your boss’s abilities.

Three easy steps to try out to learn how to be happy

1: Think about a couple of things that made you smile within the last week.  It can be small or big, anything counts, the important is that you remember these more happy situations and recreate inside you the feeling you had when you smiled.

2: Remember this feeling when you wake up in the morning, make yourself feel it so much that you can positively think that rain is good for plants and after rain comes the sun eventually.

3: Take this way of feeling and thinking with you to work, choose to smile to your coworkers, be even nice if someone spills their coffee on your newly cleaned pants and you possibly please your boss by doing your job with a positive smile.

Keep this attitude up and you will soon feel that everybody around you seem nicer and your boss might not be quite as bad as you thought.  Even when you drive home from work things around you have changed to the better.

You are on your way to find out how to be happy.

Pia Balling

http://www.youramazingpower.com

Last week our water pipes gave up and burst so the bathroom is now almost unusable and pretty disgusting as the ceiling fell down, another room had to be vacated and now everything around us is a big dirty mess and will probably stay a mess for some time until the work to reestablish everything has finished. On top of that it is freezing cold outside and the car has troubles getting out of the long driveway because of snow and ice.

How can you stand it, one of my friends exclaimed?

Well here is how: Waking up to the silence of the snow is so relaxing and makes me feel a happy day is on it’s way, so happy that I automatically choose to look out the window an extra time to and enjoy the beauty of the extraordinary white landscape of this New England Town where I live.

A good start on this happy day makes it possible to ignore the negativity trying to make its way to my brain when I go to the kitchen to make breakfast.  On top of that a warming smile and a hug from my life’s partner makes it easy to choose good thoughts, after all I know a solution is on its way.

This is how a day like this can still be another perfectly happy day.

Pia Balling

http://www.youramazingpower.com

Even before a Masters Tournament like The Australian Open in Tennis is finished and the winner found we have other types of winners.

In this year’s Australian Open Francesca Schiavone can already be pronounced the moral winner on the women’s side.
Not only is she the winning part of a spectacular and historic 4 hours and 44 minutes and 47 games match that brought her to the quarterfinals, she is also the first Italian woman getting this far in the Australian Open tennis tournament. There is a reason she is called the Lioness among tennis players in Italy, a lioness who after this match is going to be ranked 4 in the world. An impressive accomplishment of this 30 year young woman.
But most of all, Francesca Schiavone delivered the most inspirational and inventive quality tennis paired with a passion, joy, intensiveness, creativeness and fighting spirit that reminds us what the game of tennis is really all about.

After all this I think we all expected to see Schiavone arrive to the next match partly on crutches and to give her next opponent Caroline Wozniacki a fast victory. But no – there she was on fire, running and fighting for every point, commenting her more unfortunate shots the Italian way with her hands.
Eventually she had to give in to number one in the world Caroline Wozniacki, but with a message to all us tennis and sports lovers: Even at The Australian Open the old saying is true that it ain’t over until the fat lady sings.

Pia Balling

Chinese Parenting and Amy Chua has upset the schools all over the country. Compared to the rest of the world American parents’ kids have been rated very low in basic areas of school education like math and science according to the Program for International Student Assessments.

Furthermore American school kids are “protected” by a firm shield of set rules and regulations, established gradually by parents, not to expose their children to confrontational situations during school years. Regular exams and proper tests measuring what has been learned are some places non-existing or of a so low standard that anybody will be able to pass.

Result:  We are screaming loud about child-abuse when a Yale Law Professor, Amy Chua, tells us how she was straightforward in her way with her kids, demanded her children to get straight A’s in school and tells about the methods she used to obtain this in her new book “Battle Hymn of The Tiger Mother”.

She apparently followed what she thought was right and what her cultural background taught her, and she did that to an A.  And her kids even seem to be happy.

Does that make it bad parenting because she first and foremost (no sleep-outs etc. for her kids) has been thinking of giving her children the best educational start for grown-up life?

Does that make other parents, who follow a different pattern, bad parents because they first and foremost want to give their children a daily, happy life with an average basic education?

That it a big question and does make us look closer at what we as parents are doing – or not doing- and how we execute our self imposed parental role.

Is our soul-searching here revealing?  I think yes.  And leaves us with another question:  Are we really parenting to do everything we can to give our kids the best basis for the happy and prosperous life we all want our children to have?

Is our outrage a cover over our own mediocrity displayed by Amy Chua’s Chinese Parenting system telling us how we should force our kids to A’s in the basic areas of learning?

Amy Chua is definitely extreme in her methods seen with traditional American eyes, but are we just as extreme in our C-standard as Chua in her A-standard?

So what is best; An education that effectively prepares your kid for a grown up life that actually demands something from every individual, or giving our kids a happy-go-lucky childhood with mediocre education that doesn’t prepare them for the many and tuff hurdles later in real life?

Or would it help to add a new type of curriculum called “How To Be Happy In Life”

in the school system?

Pia Balling

These days I have been thinking a lot about parenting, the lack of it and what that can mean.

Parenting for happiness and achievement is a task every parent wants to perform. This also means teaching your kids how to be happy and successful; not your success, but your kid’s success.
So how good teachers are we, and do we really use all the helping resources that are available to us?
Or are we just using the experiences we have from our own childhood and thereby transferring also all the negative stuff that might have been a hidden disaster for us and not teaching us how to be happy.

Where does your kid’s impulse for achievement come from?
Probably and mostly from the way we grew up, which means from our parents. So your kid’s impulses for achievement will come from your daily input to them.

The big question is, if we as parents listen to what we have learned from our own life; do we use totalitarian tactics in our parenting or do we choose to listen to our children like we probably wanted our parents to have listened to us.

We are all tempted to teach our children to live the dream of our life and I see in most families that parents have a tendency to get very upset if the kid’s don’t accept that, understand that.

But a life forcefully motivated by an urge for parent-perfectionism is bound to give your kid ego-issues and fear of failure issues as a life companion and will be disappointing not only for your kid but also for you.

It is your choice as a parent to support your kid’s knowledge in the basic areas of life that are the foundation for how to be happy. Like family, health, relationships and friends, work and education, and also money.
With a good basis your kid will be well equipped for a happy and successful lifeand will also understand how to be happy.

Pia Balling

It feels like being a happy and carefree child again watching the snow falling.  So many great memories of happy times mixed with the dazzling beauty of virgin white snow come through your head.

That is until you need to start the car to go somewhere.  My car is not really made for winter weather and the winter tires have not found their place on the wheels either so I got stuck in a few inches of snow in the driveway.

Instead I went walking or rather rapidly following my basically white dog only left visible by her black and dark brown spots moving happily up and down over the snow.

The bang of a car being rear-ended and somebody crying out in despair wake me up – luckily no persons are hurt only damage to the cars, which is bad enough.  I promise myself to get the winter tires on and avoiding at least some danger when driving.

And laugh as I pass an old and very repair needing house that in just twenty minutes of snow turned into the white house.

Pia Balling

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It all started out by the “How to be happy at work” book; Good spirits, laughs, jokes again, more laughs, happiness  and relaxation between coworkers.  Holiday spirits really entered the workplace.

Well, there is always a devil in the group and this nice day she came out bickering about something concerning maybe your work not being good enough.

You try to take it nicely even if the devil is wrong, but she can’t help persisting bickering and attacking you and that becomes a little much.

What do you do?

All this is exactly what you don’t need this nice day, so being a normally happy person you do your best to focus on positive things and get on with your work.

However you can’t really get it to function, your mind keeps going back to the attacking devil and what was said and even if you are not even angry it keeps bothering you.

Here is what you do: (and you can find this at http://www.youramazingpower.com/perpetual happiness)  Find a moment within yourself, take a couple of deep breaths, think about something funny and smile, think again about something that has made you very happy, feel the happiness come to you and smile again.  Keep your smile going from the inside by holding on to the happy memory, think also about that holidays are all about joy and forgiveness and get out of this set back.

Have happiness and happy holiday spirits also at work.

Pia Balling

To your happiness,
youramazingpower